THREE PARENTS

This week Ontario’s highest court ruled in the case of a five year old boy being brought up by two lesbian parents that the boy’s biological father could also become his legal father thus providing him with three legal parents.  But if three parents why not four or five?  And what happens if this loving threesome falls apart and one of them sues in an acrimonious divorce?  Are there no limits to the permutations and combinations of the 21st century family?  And who should be making these decisions?

4 Comments »

  1. 1
    jim Says:

    The decision should be made by the “Village”

  2. 2
    Cate McB Says:

    “If three parents why not four or five?” Why not indeed? In some African contexts, the whole village or the extended-family-compound raises the child. This happens here in North America too, probably more than even I realize on a daily basis. “And what happens if this loving threesome falls apart and one of them sues in an acrimonious divorce?” Whether it is a twosome, threesome, foursome or whatever, there’s always the potential for an acrimonious divource, and perhaps if there’s numerous parents involved, then there’s more chance that one or more will still be able to care for the child adequately in the midst of the acrimonious divorce. “Are there no limits to the permutations and combinations of the 21st century family?” There have been unlimited permutations and combinations in other centuries — why not the 21st? And who should be making these decisions? I agree with Jim: the “Village”
    Thanks for the chance to comment, Cate McB

  3. 3
    Barbara Says:

    The limits ought to be the welfare of the child, who seems always the pawn in any legal struggle.
    What constitutes the welfare of the child? I suppose the “Village” would decide, ultimately — perhaps with a vote, perhaps with legislation.
    Being compassionate and flexible seems a treasured Canadian trait. Yet flexibility can tie one in knots, as the Dutch have come to realize and that has created significant tension and backlash in their society.
    Is there, in fact, a bottom line (at least as seen with our own limited views at this point in human development)? Must this flexibility in defining family allow for polygamy? It would seem so. How do children fare in those arrangements of family?
    A Solomon would be nice to have around.

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    Vladimir Says:

    Village? What village?

    Could bring it up at the next meeting

    Item 1 : Leak in the church roof
    Item 2 : Sales of Raffle tickets
    Item 3 : Future of the Nuclear family in the
    21st century


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